PERSONALITY

PERSONALITY. Who’s a personality? A person who have lots of money? Or a person who is a big Film star? A person who’s leading the nation or a person who’s running a big empire? Who’s a PERSONALITY? Who’s actually a personality? Can anyone tell me? For you all a Personality is a person who’s a big person in terms of financial status. One who’s a Film Star, a Businessman, a Sportsperson and the list go on. Well in my case it’s a different. If you’ll ask me who’s a personality for me, my answer will be: “EVERYONE I KNOW”.

Yeah, exactly. That’s true. For me everyone who’s around me is a Personality. Well may be I’m seeing something which you are not able to see that’s why you all are not seeing a Personality around you. But I must tell you, we all are surrounded by a Personality. We just have to tilt our way of looking at them a bit. If we able to do then I’m sure you all will find yourself surrounded by at least one Personality. Then this term will have a wider meaning rather than narrow as it’s now. I’m glad to share my vision and definition of a Personality with you. Well not getting away from topic I would like to come directly on my vision of a Personality. The first Personality we all met in our life is someone whom we know well. Any guess? They are our PARENTS. Yeah they are a Personality. You all might be thinking how they can be a Personality? Right? Well I know my Parents are. My mom never ever said no to me whenever I was hungry. She used to leave her work and used to feed me. I still remember when I was in school, my sister timing and my timing of returning from school was having a difference of 2 hours. I used to reach early. And she used to make hot chapatti for us leaving her all work. We always got hot chapatti on plate. After my sister had her food after coming from school, she used to eat despite how much hungry she was. She used to wait for us. I like sweets lot. And my mom knows it. She also likes sweets. But she used to save all sweets for me. After me, she used to eat. On being asked she will smile and say, “I’m your mother. How could I’ve it before you when I know you like it?” Now as I’m in Pune pursuing my further studies, still she used to save some sweets for me as she knows that I’ll come on vacations and I like sweets. According to her, a mother can’t have anything when she knows that her child like that. She used to take me to the shop on my b’days and used to buy clothes for me. I used to say that I don’t one but she used to take me to the shop and would insist on buying a cloth. I just can’t forget those moments. They still come in front of my eyes. How can I forget during festivals? These are some events which I can’t forget. She used to stand outside the house if I used to get 5 minutes late from my tuitions. She still loves me the same way although we are 1600 kms away from each other. Whenever she used to call, she always says, “Never be shy on eating sweets. If u likes to eat certain sweet then go ahead and eat. I used to remember you always and especial when I cook something which is your favourite.” It’s been three years in Pune, but still when I come from there, her eyes get wet. She’s running a small ladies shop and she looks after the house too. But at night of my leaving from there, she used to be awake whole night, cooking something for me. Some sweet, some salty. Everything. She keeps running from house to shop, but till now I never got cold food. I always got hot food. She cooks when we want to eat. She never prepared food in advance just for her convenience. In spite she is handling two things at a time; she always took care of us very well. I used to demand what I want to eat and she used to prepare that. My sister and I’ve a different taste but she never complained. She used to prepare food for both of us. She used to prepare two different types of food for both if us without any complaint. She always gave us what was good for us. She took proper care for us. When I was a kid, she taught us all good habits. Today people say that I’m well behaved and they all like me for that. The whole credit goes to her. I was taught that I have to be calm and quiet and should respect everyone despite their age. Whenever I didn’t obeyed her she shouted and taught me well. She was one of the people to make me a good human being. I used to be a good student during my childhood. So one day a teacher just seeing my name gave me good marks for all the wrong answer. When my Mom checked out she went to my teacher and said that she did wrong by giving me full marks for the wrong answer. From her learnt to be honest. She used to do all her work despite the other person is cursing her. From her I learnt to do your work sincerely and perfectly. She taught me to be frank and to be good to every person. She taught me to respect every human being. She nourished me to be a good human being. If people praise me for being a good human being, I owe it to her. It’s all because of her people like me, respect me and love me. I just can’t thank her in words at all. She is the one of the Personality I know. For me she a GOD. No wonder how bad her child is, she can never ever think anything bad for her child. My salute to My MOM and all the MOM of the earth. I LOVE YOU MOM. YOU ARE BEST. I LOVE YOU A LOT.

RELATIONSHIP, THE COMPLEX WORD

"HOW TO HAVE A GOOD RELATIONSHIP?"
"HOW TO MAINTAIN A RELATIONSHIP?"

This are the questions which are being asked and run into every person's mind. But this questions can never be answered, but to be felt and expreinced. One need to understand the other person well and then need to behave in that way. The relationship is not only between Husband-Wife, its between daughter-mother, mother-son, father-son, father-daughter, between friends, between boss and his employee and every person who are related to each other. But why it happen's that we sometimes missunderstood people? Why we don't understand the other person? Why we fail to hear the unspoken words by the other family members? Why we see the disputes in the family inspite being a FAMILY? Are we lacking somehwhere? Are we getting selfish that only our words to heard or given importance? Why we fails to understand the other perosn? WHY?

I sometimes wonder, in older days, when there were joint-family, there were less disputes and they all used to stay together, happiliy. But now, in the necular-family, where there are only parents and their childrens, why do they fail to be happy? Why does a mother father fails to understand what his son wants from him? Why a mother get involves in a younger child so much that she forgets the other? Why do they miss-interpreat the meaning of their child sharing his view as he's being questioning their up-bringing?

Its been said that, the child's mind is like a plain paper. Whatever you write in it in his early childhood days, gets imprinted for the whole life. That's the reason, in old days, the family elderly person used to take utmost care that the young ones of the family are been giving proper training till they grew up and sees the world from their own. They were kept away from all the disputes, tension, fights, and other such negative things going on in a family, so that they should not get imprinted in family. They used to spent time with the eldely person, whos disission was listened, and who used to be the friend of the young ones. The young ones made their gandparents as friends and shared all thier thoughts which then mixed with the expreince of theirs and then given the comment or solutions to problems. This not only made young felt good as they were having a good friend to solve out their problem but also someone from the family who is their friend. Having a family as a friend, a good friend, helpled them a lot. They not only learnt how to tackel the problems but also shared thier feeling and got emotional support, which is the important part of the upbringing. HAVING A GOOD EMOTIONAL SUPPORT. A young child needs someone with whom he can share all his thought. In joint-family, he has grandparents. But in necular-family, he's left alone. He fears to share his thought with parents, as they are parents. Parents become ther good parents, but fails to become the good friend when they need to be. This somehow affects the child, mentally. He sees them as a parents not friends, and then he starts hidding things. He start telling lie. At this point, the friends,the school friends, plays the role. He mixes with them. Due to the improper knowledge given to him in the beinging by his PARENTS, he start thinking that anyone who understand him, with whom he is enjoying is his friend. But when parents intervent by saying that you this friend isn't good, stay away from him, or your friends background, parents are not good, stay away from him, makes the child angry and then he become stubborn and start arguing with his parents. But here they wuite him by slapping at that point and putting him into rules and regulations which imprint in his mind as his parents are not good and don't understand him. When the child moves to college, he by that time has been imprinted with all such incidents which result in that the parents are parents, we need to hide our things from him. But how much a person's mind and heart can hide. Now he looks for someone with whom he can share his secrets and start searching for a lover. As he has seen, that the lover should be good looking and beautifil, he looks for the same, but forgets that the important thing is how much the person understands you. This gives rise to instant break-ups and link-ups. And the physical attractions and need plays the important role in it. He can't share his physical changes and problems with his parents, as he don't find it good to share because of our conservativeness and the parents don't take the initiative as they are parents and not friends. They don't open to their children and so the children's. This start making the distance between them and constant clash of ideas and thinking giving in rise to the tension between childrens and parents. Here the parents fails to understand the actual reason and make the wrong conclusion that thier child don't treat them well and is runing out of thier hands or has already did. This thinking plays another important role and control the parents actions which then has the equal reactions. The same thing happens with the child who thinks the same thing and give rise to his actions. The child finally after so much link-ups get the final partner and decide to spent the whole life with her. The parents have no choice to agree as ultimately they are parents. All their blackmailing or outbrust of emotions of not following thier words and lisenting to them have no impact on child. They marry and the parents have two options left. Either they have to leave the home and live somewhere else, or they have to live with them quietly at the one corner of the home. The parents can never take that their child will treat them so badly, so they move to some other place.

This is the scene which are seen today. The story and the action-reactions might not be the same but this is what happen. Not in one relationship but in every relationship. The main reason is that, we see the things from our side. We never see the things from other side. We always have a feeling that the superior never bend his head. We don't think that if the king has to rule, he has to listen and has to care the emotions, feelings of the crowd, of the countrymen. Then only he's the TRUE KING. Why we fails to understand the small thing? Why we overlook one thing which make us HUMAN? That thing is EMOTIONS,FEELINGS. One care, and the problem is solved.

the limit

20th july 09

today i won't give any title as i was not sure which one will suit my thought.
it's been five days of my first blog and during this time i was thinking all about what should i write in my next blog, what should not.

well there lots of thought goes in my mind. i'm getting how to frame it. then suddenly i thought that let there be proper flow as once my spritual guru once told me that which ever flowing thing is stopped or kept in a container, they lost its purity. he framed it like" you'll get fresh water in a flowing river and not in pond. so let everything flow, your thoguht, the energy around you. everything."

i wont write much about it and i would let you to have a proper flow of your emotions, your energy, your thought. thats it.

see you soon.

the start

15th july 2009
today is the day i started my blog. i thought of having a blog as i wanted to share my experince with all out there. may be my experince will help someone. you never know.

actually it's true "you never know". i came to pune for studies but that to all of a sudden.
it's a story. after i passed my 12th in commerce i was planning to go to delhi for further studies but i wasn't happy as i wanted to study in pune. but my father told me that i will be studying in delhi as i have my aunt over there so it will be help for us to know about colleges. we did everything, searched the college and filled the form and i was waiting for result in my home back in orissa, then suddenly one day we got a call from my uncle, my father's friend, that he'll be coming to our home for a one day halt.

as he came he asked me that whats my plan. as i told him everything, he got angry and then he told me that i'll be taking addmission to pune. and my dream came true.

i never knew that he'll come all of a sudden and i'll be here in pune. until his visit i wasn't knowing that i'll be in pune someday. so "you never know" what will happend next and which will change your life.

i always say " have a trust on you and your dream, rest leave to the GOD. let him care how to take you to your destiny. there is everything planned. work hard, live your dream and then just how your dream will come true as the PARENTS are looking us from sky and helping us"

live your dream.